I have never liked endings to stories entirely well...because they are endings.
I have a tendency to hold onto things that have well since dwindled away. As a child, I had to adapt to the challenge of moving to new towns multiple times. I remember the first time I moved from a place that I loved. The sense of community being ripped away from my hands resulted in a tear in my heart.
It is sad to transition from the 'here and now' to the person that has become a product of the 'out of sight, out of mind' mentality. The constant changes in my life gave me a new perspective in life.
I was tired of the out of sight, out of mind mentality. I didn't like that it sometimes signifies that chapters or rather, relationships have ended or dissolved. I wanted to keep connection to the fullest. I tried to keep all friendships from deteriorating.
This attempt was like reaching for the impossible. It was as though I was seeking to hold on to every moment that I had experienced. Every thought that I had chosen to ponder.
Life is ever changing, ever forming. Friendships are journeys that we go through in different seasons in life. Sometimes we are lucky enough to have those friends that stick with us through multiple seasons. At other times, friendships are only meant to be there for a short while.
Regardless, we must come to terms that friendships can indeed end. The period of closure and process of moving are important parts of starting new beginnings. We can't always find the joy of beginnings when we are still lost in the ending.
So here's to new beginnings.
Monday, June 7, 2010
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Yup.
ReplyDeleteFriendships only need to be considered "ended" if the person has died or if things have gone horribly wrong. I think two people (or more) can drift apart (physically or relationally) and still consider themselves friends without it being formally "ended," you know? I'm not disagreeing with what you're saying, just adding to it - acknowledging that while a relationship may die out, and while you may stop pursuing each other, it's ok to still consider them a friend.